Why I ditched New Year’s Resolutions
As a cancer survivor, my perspective on life and how I approach each new year has transformed significantly. Gone are the days of rigid New Year’s resolutions, replaced by a more mindful and present-focused approach. It’s not about setting a specific goal like losing a certain amount of weight by Christmas. Instead, I concentrate on embodying the traits and behaviors that lead to such accomplishments.
Living in the Now
Surviving cancer reshaped my understanding of time. The future is not promised, and dwelling on what’s to come takes away from the beauty of now. I’ve learned to appreciate each moment, and in doing so, my aspirations have shifted from specific, time-bound goals to broader, direction-oriented ones.
Directional Aspirations Over Concrete Goals
My aspirations are no longer tied to specific outcomes but to the type of person I want to become. It’s about embracing a lifestyle rather than chasing a number on a scale. For instance, rather than aiming to lose a set amount of weight, I focus on being someone who cares for my body through balanced eating, adequate rest, and regular exercise. This shift from goal-oriented to behavior-oriented thinking has been liberating.
The Power of Habitual Living
The key lies in forming habits that align with the person I aspire to be. It’s not about the singular achievement of a goal but about consistently engaging in behaviors that foster that achievement. For example, instead of setting a resolution to write a book, I focus on cultivating the discipline and creativity of a writer, committing to daily writing sessions.
A Journey of Self-Discovery
This approach is a journey of self-discovery. It’s about understanding my values, strengths, and areas for growth. Each day, I ask myself, ‘Am I living in a way that aligns with who I aspire to be?’ This question guides my actions and decisions, keeping me grounded in the present.
Surviving cancer gave me a second chance at life, and I choose to live it with intention. By focusing on who I want to be rather than what I want to achieve, I find myself more fulfilled and present. This approach might not be for everyone, but for me, it’s been a transformative way to navigate life’s journey.
